Drawing
the Line on Unconditional Love
10/23/04
In my lifetime, I have never witnessed enduring
unconditional love from another human being. I do not believe it is physically
possible. I think that once we have reached that position of being able to give
it, we have passed over to join with the one that is unconditional love. I
believe that this state is only experienced spiritually.
It is our inborn desire to move to a place of
unconditional love and that is what we strive to do, once we reach a measure of
enlightenment that facilitates this kind of growth. As human beings, we attach
conditions to our love (emotion). I will love you as long as you fit into a set
of parameters that I can accept, and live with. Once you have crossed over the
line, I can no longer love you. For humans, this is a matter of ownership. Love
is not abstract, but something that is real and physical. It is a feeling that
we own and can access.
Universal love (Gods love) is abstract and impartial. It
is not felt, but acknowledged. The creator acknowledges the love of humanity, by
granting unconditional love (freedom) to him.
Humanity is free to screw up his whole life, come back in
another lifetime and screw it up again and again until he no longer wishes to
experience screwing it up and wants to move on. Can there be a greater example
of unconditional love? Re-incarnation is the ultimate expression of
unconditional love and helps us with the screwing up process. Every lifetime is
a screw-up until we get it perfect, then it is a perfect screw-up.
There is no reason, save the one you give to your life
for being perfect. You are just trying to get there. You do not have to be
there. You can take as long as you want to reach that plateau.
This may seem strange coming from a spiritualist, but I
believe it is my way of demonstrating unconditional love. We all take our lives
away too seriously. We need to chill out. There isn’t any advantage to being
able to stand back from our lives as the silent observer and judge ourselves
without condemnation about who, what and where we are. All of us are perfect the
way we are. Each of us is in the exact place of time and space that is
appropriate for us. We do not need anyone’s permission to be so. Because we are
creating the circumstances and events of our lives, we can do as we please. Any
punishment or retribution that we experience will come from others in our lives
that we have drawn into it, and it will, because we have chosen to bring them
into our lives.
The more aware we are of this fact, the more freedom we
will have to experience it. Any other thoughts we may have about the process
will determine how successful we are at it.
Once again, the greatest love of all is freedom to live
our lives as we CHOOSE with the guaranty that we can do it over and over again
until we know longer choose to.
"Facts and figures never stand a chance in collision with
human nature and man's instinct to see things in his own best light." (Tate
Montague)
Man does not have the ability to grant unconditional love
to another, because in fact he cannot give it away, until he grants it to
himself first.
Roy is a resident of British Columbia, Canada. An international published author, a student of NLP, spiritual philosopher, New Age Light Worker, Teacher and Phenomenologist. Roy's books and articles are thought provoking, and designed to empower your imagination.
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